Chinese New Year
I was born in the year of the snake and this is quite literally my year... First, some celebration. Getting through any year on this planet isn't easy, so let's celebrate with friends and food and some very old relatives who can barely remember your name.
This year I'm going to change a few things, as well as go down a few paths that I have wanted to follow for a while. Working with other subs, more ball-busting content, more streamlined nylon content. I have in mind a few series of training videos, too. This year, I'm going to do 3 pull-ups from hanging, and practice lots of rope.
I'll be traveling to South Korea in March, and if you are based in Asia, this is the time to reach out and fill out an application. It's such an easy hop from Taiwan, or China. I'm learning a little Korean, but I'd rather say awful things to you right into your ear... in Chinese.
I have NYC, Berlin, and Europe also on the agenda. Believe it or not NYC is already fully booked. I know, my sessions are extremely expensive and only the ones who save for a while or are just quite financially comfortable can afford seeing me. It's not my fault that I am well-appreciated, and the fortunate ones who have earned a place in my private email list get knowledge of my travels first. Of course, I have to know you pretty well to have that kind of communication with you. Hmmm, how did I come to get to know some of you so well, I wonder? :p
For now, I want you to focus on my feet, my legs, my ass, my legs, my boots, my cheekbones, my legs, my feet and my winning, dominant personality.
Blackmail Trap
It makes sense. It's the fear. It's the adrenaline. You're afraid, but you still want it. I've made it so easy for you. My blackmail trap has been laid.
Once you've watched it, get 3 more from here: All My blackmail clips.
New Year Gratitude For Pervs
We have crossed the threshold into a new year. Can you feel that? Shimmering through your screen is my gratitude for the tributes sent, clips purchased... If you've interacted with me and played with me in sessions and heard me guide them with my voice or on cam... lucky you. On harder days, I forget that so many of my fans and subs are sincerely genuine and lovely. But today, I haven't forgotten this and, as we turn the corner to longer days, I extend to you my gratitude and wish you a happy New Year.
My goal this year is to give and receive the kind of quality of connection that we all want. I want everything in my life to be of QUALITY. My friends, my groceries, my outfits, the people I choose to meet, the services I choose to provide, the videos I choose to make, the fantasies I make into reality. All top notch, all of the time. I think it’s important to set high standards for yourself + the life you want. Only the best. I think you can see it in my work and the content you've purchased. I want the same for you.
Your first assignment, should you choose to accept it, is this: think hard, feel hard, give hard (don't just jerk hard).
Think hard about what really turns you on, focus on your top 3 fetishes, and if you'd like to tell me, I'm usually available on LF (followmzkim.com).
Feel hard: I want you to schedule in 3 hours of volunteer work in this year. 3 hrs spread out through a full year is not difficult. Don't watch another show, have another coffee. See how you take to it. 3 hours, just try it. I promise you'll get something out of it that you didn't expect.
Give hard. Give a gift to someone who isn't expecting it (in my case, I often ask for gifts, but I love it when I'm surprised). The thing is, this act of generosity does a lot of things. It makes me smile and leaves a warm feeling in relation to you specifically. Secondly, it starts conversation and intimacy. Connection... Remember
Let's dive deeper into your kinks, fetishes and desires. Investing in the woman who gives you joy is investing in yourself. I'm not exactly a kink dispenser, but I do appreciate many different tastes and really like is when you understand yourself or at the very least you like to explore your perverted desires and let me poke around those crevices and corners of your horny little brain.
One last random thought... my favourite part of the New Year tradition is the day after the partying/bundling up in bed when we can all get on with our lives. I'll be honest, I think resolutions are dumb. They're just goals. And if you aren't good at making goals and sticking with them, then why torture yourself with resolutions? Also, I've given you a few bites to chew on above with your tasks.
Anyway, with that nugget of advice, and tasks, happy New Year. Now let's get on to my next favourite subject - my legs. My wish list, AKA things to adorn my legs and body, should you like to make me smile and gift me the things I really want.
With Love & Gratitude,
Mz. Kim
Asian Dominatrix Femdom Findom Nylon Connoisseur
How To Be An Online Content Producer AKA Online Dominatrix AKA Boss
How did I come to teaching a workshop called, Monetizing Your Appeal Online: Content, Business Strategies for Models, Dommes? How does one become an online domme, or fetish content producer, or their own boss? Why do I want to share this valuable information?
I am an actively working Asian Online Dominatrix. So, I don't just teach it, I live it, I work it. This story begins at DomCon. Yes, there is a convention for everything. I saw that most of the women who attended were in-person dommes. And when they found out about my work and my specializations, they were surprised to find out that I could make a very good living doing only online domination and online content production. They had lots of questions and preconceived notions about what it takes to do this work.
“I really like the in-person connection, I just don’t think you can have that in online domination.”
"What kind of services do people pay for?"
“How do you dominate anyone without being in front of them?”
“How do people find you? How do you find clients?”
I realized that many professional dominatrices were intimidated and perhaps embarrassed that they did not know how to work online. I also realized that people from all sorts of backgrounds wanted to learn how to do the work that I do.
I also realized how invested I am in helping others through these classes because this work has given me so much. The life that I am able to live is made possible by this work. The life I left, in which I was terribly abused, was made possible by this work. The woman I am, the confidence that I hold, the relationships I have developed with other bad-ass sex workers… all of this is made possible by this work. So, teaching how to do this work finally made sense. It was time to pay it forward.
Here lie the true reasons behind sharing all of this knowledge and information... not just in being bossy to other people. Putting the intelligent work into my business has given me a sense of self, growth, autonomy, creativity, confidence and success. I thought, how great would it be if others could find the same freedoms, creativity and money & fun?
What makes my online business successful? It’s a mixture of making brutally honest self-evaluations; prioritizing content strategies; gathering tools, assessing costs, honing skills. Last but not least, really loving the work that I do, the freedom it provides, the autonomy and creativity I have in my own life. I am my own boss. And the boss of many.
From start to finish, the workshop is about 3.5 hours of a beginner’s class followed by an advanced class. I teach the basics of sex work, the start-up costs & necessities, self-evaluation, online content, strategies and marketing and what actions to take. Then, I tailor the advanced class to the participants after getting a feel for the levels at which they are already working.
Figuring out how to get all of this in a presentation that isn’t a complete snoozefest was a challenge. I didn’t want to just stand there and lecture. Fortunately, I am able to pepper in lots of stories and real-life anecdotes that seem to get everyone engaged and laughing.
One of my students & friend, Stella Sol, wrote this, “I really enjoyed your class in SF & have been busy ever since b/c I’ve been taking your advice. I am already seeing a dramatic increase in my traffic, income & understand of online marketing.”
Another wrote this. "When teaching, Mz. Kim brings an incredible level of presence, professionalism, and information to her classes. Along with being organized, she has a diverse knowledge base that is eternally fascinating to learn from. As a teacher, Mz. Kim does an excellent job of tying in personal anecdotes and humor that enrich your learning experience. As a coach, Mz. Kim is thoughtful and inventive, and you can feel that she truly wants to help you achieve your goals. I am grateful for the wisdom Mz. Kim has shared with me."
These reviews bring such an immense feeling of satisfaction.
There was something that stood out of the workshops I have taught. Community. Sex work can be isolating. That’s part of the draw, actually. So, that's the double-edged sword. We can work alone, and be left alone. But then, we are alone.
The sense of community and meeting others in this industry has been an essential part of my own growth and I think a welcomed relief to many of my students. No person is an island. There are things that others can teach us so that we do not have to re-invent the wheel. By providing these workshops, I have given an opportunity for people to get together and meet others. They come to learn the contents of my class, but they leave with a larger sense of community.
Another of the limitations of this work is stigma. It can weigh down on us in ways we don’t realize. From not being able to use easy payment processors to not being able to post ads on Facebook; from having photographs and content constantly taken down on Instagram or Tumblr to having negative reactions from significant others and their family members, stigma in this line of work is real. Talking to others dealing with the same issues, and sharing solutions… this is something valuable that a real-time class can provide.
I wish that I had this kind of class when I was starting out in online sex work. And sometimes, it’s been hard to show SWs that this class can be useful to them. This kind of education isn’t as glamorous as a hard-skills class. A choking class like one I took recently from Domina Snow, a personal friend and colleague, would be considered a hard-skills class. I haven’t used this choking skillset nearly as much as the “Deep Work” segment of my own class. As Snow said, “We always teach the most important things that our younger selves needed to know, but it never seems to be received with the same value.”
Still, I hope that more people and SWs will let me teach them. Once they step into my workshop, they will see just how valuable this information is. How important it is to meet others in the same community. And I hope that I will get to hear how this work has changed their lives as they have changed mine.
Mz Kim to Teach Las Vegas Class in Online Content, Strategies for Models, Dommes
Las Vegas, NV — Mz. Kim, 2020 AVN nominee, will teach a two-part workshop for online business, building content and marketing strategies for clips performers, models and Dommes.
Kim was recognized as an upcoming 2020 AVN nominee for Favorite Domme as well as XBIZ Rising Clip Star nominee earlier this year. She is holding the class on January 21st, 2020, from 1 to 4 p.m. (PST) at the Studios, described as "a boutique fetishspace for private play, education and photography."
The world of online sex work is complicated and fascinating. Being a true professional in this industry takes creativity, discipline, focus, entrepreneurship and a love of human sexuality. Mz. Kim has done this in spades and it shows in all of the paths she has taken to stake her own digital real estate in the fetish online market.
Mz. Kim has taught this workshop numerous times and is looking forward to teach more women the valuable skills necessary to make a living and a business online.
"I have been a professional online Domina of 15 years and I have put together this two-part series to harness your potential to maximize and monetize your online presence," said, Mz. Kim.
For more information and to sign up for the classes, read the details and purchase tickets at the website here and follow Kim on Twitter.
Question from Dan Savage
Dan Savage sent out a Tweet and asked me and several other pro-dommes to weigh in about a question sent in to him by a listener. I decided to write a post about it.
Why are dominatrices so fucking expensive? I live in a big city with lots of doms, and they’re all $250/hour or more. On top of that, many of them ask for “tributes” on their websites and strongly imply that the hourly rate is just the beginning of their charges. Now, I’m sure there are expenses involved in the business and I don’t know much about being a dominatrix, but it seems to me that your average dom would get a lot more business if she lowered her rates a little so many people would not get priced out of the market. After all, basic economics tells us that non-essential services are price-sensitive.
Anonymous
The question of why dominatrices cost so much is legitimate…
though, the condescension in tone makes this question hard to take seriously.
Asking why they are so expensive is like walking into a Louis Vuitton store and saying, “why is everything in here so expensive.” The simple answer is, because the market dictates it. LV is a luxury brand. We, the professional dommes are a highly specialized, luxury service. There is a market that dictates both. In a highly specialized service, specific needs and intimate desires of a submissive requires a high level of thought and attention. Lowering prices would reduce quality and thought and attention. And in this intimate world of kinks and fetishes and transcendence and bliss, would you want a reduction in the quality of thought and attention put forth by your provider?
“...(B)asic economics tells us that non-essential services are price-sensitive”.
Only people who don’t know anything about economics use this phrase. We, the dominatrices, are the actual market. So, when you look around to see the market showing you a particular number, maybe it isn’t the worker who is overcharging. Others in the thread have already outlined the steep costs of equipment, rentals, training, education, clothing, tools, toys, societal and criminal risks. I won’t go into those. What I am focusing on more is the real question.
“...(I)t seems to me that your average dom would get a lot more business if she lowered her rates a little so many people would not get priced out of the market.”
The thing that I dislike the most is not even the self-centered, self-benefiting nature of the idea that rates should be lowered. Most of us are looking for a good deal. We all like to pay less. If I could get a pair of Louboutins or a car for less than market price, I would do that.
What is really grating is the unspecified amount of “a little”. What’s a little? Should dommes lower their rates to whatever you, the domme bargain-hunter decides is within your comfort zone? What is that number? And how did you come to it? Who are you speaking for when you talk about the “many people” who are being priced out of the market?
This isn't about other people or even economics. This is about you pushing your own limitations and selfishness under the guise of economics and a market. As you said, you have no understanding of what it takes to run a business as a pro-domme. It's not my job or my desire to teach you about this. You simply want the rates to be lower because you are uncomfortable with your own lack of resources, lack of skills in budgeting & saving. So, when you see that the market is at a certain price, maybe it’s not the market with the problem.
Asking why something is so expensive isn't going to get you closer to your goal.
I am primarily an online domme. The cost of entry (to a session with me) is generally lower because you can begin talking with me, and schedule shorter phone or cam sessions and spend less than the 1 hour or 2 hour minimums required by in-person dommes. So, I get fewer questions of this blamey-why-are-you-so-expensive nature because the initial amounts seem lower. However, if you add up my fees, the per minute charges, per text charges, the many other ways of interaction added up, 250 becomes a rather small number.
The upfront cost of $250/hour the listener mentions seems really steep at first. And as many have already commented in the original Twitter post, this includes so many things built into the experience.
My point is, this person is asking the wrong question. What is the real question here? Asking why something is so expensive isn't going to get you closer to your goal.
The question should be: How do I get this experience? Simply wishing the rates to be lower because you are uncomfortable with your own limitations will not help you get what you want. Whining and complaining and giving silly economic theory will not get you what you want. Finding the domina whom you really admire and working up to her expectations, within her boundaries, and limitations... this is how you get the experience and connection you truly crave. The economics fall into place when you prioritize your own experience and the value that a domina can bring into your life.
Elite Femdom Mz Kim Discusses Kink, BDSM and American...
"I am not someone who will belittle you for what you desire, unless that’s what you’re all about, in which case, get down and lick my dirty shoes, you nasty little perv."
Recently, I was interviewed for IwantClips and featured on their site. I am pleased with this interview. Read it, comment. This is a great way to get to know me.
Read it here: Elite Femdom Mz Kim Discusses Kink, BDSM and American Leather
I am the maker of fantasies
I am the maker of fantasies and dreams. I am fueled by your kinks, your perversions. In turn, I fulfill my own through photographic and moving images. Of which, then, propel your fantasies and dreams.
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It's hard to know what to expect. I am in the pornographic eye of the storm made of chaos and funny moments, camaraderie between women, and debauchery. Welcome to the pleasure dome.
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Double Domme Dream Team
@goddessstellasol & @Mz.Kim.AP (this is me, in case you don't know what webpage you are on) are together making custom videos, scheduling Skype sessions & cashmeets November 18 & 19. Imagine meeting us in person & handing us your hard-earned cash for the pleasure of facing us directly, or getting to worship during a planned Skype session.
It will be a very good idea to schedule your Skype session with us now. You'll have such a SAD face if you miss this chance.
Email to inquire: Mz.Kim.AP@gmail.com
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Under the shade of a lemonade stand
Under the shade of a lemonade stand, in the bright white hot of day, I pull up my cotton dress to feel a tiny warm sliver of breeze tickling my thighs. I can feel you looking at me. I look up and into your eyes.
"Kneel."