I forget how much I enjoy making audio fantasies. There’s something so sensual, so powerful in making your knees quiver and the hairs on your neck stand up while you listen to my voice. Wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, you can listen to my voice and get lost in it. Just put in those headphones and give in.
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If you’ve taken classes from me, or even if you haven’t, perhaps you get the feeling that I advocate for sex workers by doing the hard work and taking action. This action comes from wanting to educate and make working as a SW easier. This action comes from donating money to sex worker-focused spaces; donating my online classes to those in need; giving my time online and in person in the form of education and problem-solving conversations; writing articles and posts about the struggles, stigma and triumphs of being a SW.
So, how pleased was I to be recognized by YNOT awards as a nominee for Sex Worker Advocate! I’m proud of the work I’ve put into advocacy.
I would so appreciate it if you voted for me. Your vote means something! It means that you think my work matters. It means that you think SWs are human beings, who do real work; that we care about others; that SW education and advocacy are necessary. I teach and give my time and advocate for sex workers because I believe in this work. It has given me the freedom and expression and independence in ways that very few jobs can.
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Not gonna lie, I love being featured next to Cardi B and weird sex toys on @AVN Check out the feature article here.
“As an online dominatrix, I am able to reach through my screen and touch the lives of so many people around the world,” she told AVN. “I’ve done so for a long time, and what my clients have come to expect from me are deep understanding of unusual and erotic fetishes and real interest in them as people.”
Lawrence Avery for AVN Media Group
Role-playing games form a significant element of her relationship with her online clients, “as well as therapist-style sessions in which I manipulate men into doing some awful, dirty things. I wear beautiful business suits and do lots of CEI and chastity games,” she said. “They are just so much fun.”
This article has been the best written and comprehensive thus far encapsulating the kind of work that I do, and the courses I’m teaching, and why they matter. After having had some experience with mainstream & adult media, I sometimes forget the things I’ve said. Sometimes those things are poignant and well stated. Sometimes, I am horribly misquoted, and I sound like an idiot.
I’m just relieved and thankful that the AVN article is such a good one. Also, being featured next to Cardi B on the same website might seem silly to point out. But… AVN is the biggest adult site in the world and I think it’s pretty cool.
And even now, as most of other industries are struggling because of Covid-19, Mz. Kim said her online business is booming. “Many of my clients are home and need guidance, understanding and a reassuring, strong voice,” she wrote in an email, adding that “another reason for business being up may be that the subset of men who are now forced to stay home simply have more opportunities to play.”
Full article, cover of the Sunday Style section 09/27/2020
Back in January, right before AVN, a reporter from the New York Times reached out to ask about the online sex work economy. She had heard that I was teaching classes in Portland, Las Vegas and New Orleans. Back then, the classes were called Monetizing Your Appeal. She even flew out from New York to attend my workshop.
Fast forward to COVID and teaching several online classes later, with so much of the nation being in turmoil, the article finally comes out. I’m really proud of being a part of this story, and how much of what’s in the story is information that I tried to convey about this fascinating industry.
I wish that there had been more focus on how much work it takes to run a successful business in sex work. And more about the fascinating ins and outs of work that deals with sexuality, power, and money. Maybe that will become part 2 of this story regarding a vast online economy that many don’t understand or see.
New live classes and recorded classes have been added due to high demand. To read my most recent Medium article, CORONA, THE ONLINE SEX WORK ECONOMY AND GIVING BACK, click here.
Investing For Sex Workers Class 1 – Investing Fundamentals I’m bringing in a licensed CPA to speak! Register now for this event before it’s sold out, scheduled to go live on September 30 @ 6 PM EDT / 3 PM PST. If you can’t make the class, your ticket link gets you access to the recording!
This is a series of 3 courses designed to fundamentally shift your way of looking at money, learn how to build your wealth and invest as a SW.
You can’t invest if you don’t have money. You can’t have money unless you have an understanding of your personal finances. You can’t invest or retire unless you build this foundational understanding of personal finance and savings & retirement strategies.
Perhaps talking about specifics of personal finance and tax-advantaged vehicles isn’t sexy. You know what is sexy? Being rich. Building wealth. Saving money is sexy! Accumulating money to be able to invest in your future is sexy!
In this fundamentals class, we will discuss the pitfalls SWs find in investing.
1) Thorough introduction covering some foundation skills
2) The #1 most effective strategy in saving
3) Fundamentals in retirement tools & vehicles
All of my classes and resources can be found here.
Learn more about how and why this exclusive Asian Dominatrix is able to charge high prices
I get this question once in a while. “Why are your videos (sessions, calls, etc) so expensive?” Response: Solve your problems by becoming rich, instead of complaining to someone who can command these prices.
Look, I never balk at small purchases or small tributes. I respect those who work within their budgets and send what they can. In fact, the harder you work, the more devoted you are, the more likely I am to accept you. It doesn’t take being rich to gain favor with me. However, I do not feel the need to ensure that everything I make or offer is affordable for everyone. As an exclusive Asian Dominatrix who has run an extremely successful business for over 10 years, I know what price models work for me.
Certain kinds of content are meant to be geared towards a bigger audience. Other kinds of content like this are meant to be exclusive. Couture, if you will. This means that they are tailored to people who want those specific things and are willing to pay for them. Sometimes it’s shocking and very hard for people to understand why or how I can charge these prices. As this guy said, “O.k. Mz. Kim so you have a lot of people buying your videos at $999 for a little 15-20 minute video.” My answer: Indeed. I have subs who pay $20 to chat with me. I have subs who pay thousands to speak to me, to see me on cam, to serve me.
And they are willing to pay. Thousands per video sometimes. Thousands per session sometimes. It’s ok if you aren’t that person. It’s ok if you don’t believe that those people exist. They have more money than you and that’s not your problem. But if you want to play with the big girls, then you have to act like a big boy and make more money.
And, if you make it your problem by complaining, then you look like a whiner and no one will want to play with you.
I like saying what I’ll do, and doing as I say. April and May have turned out to be my months of providing education and raising money for BDSM spaces. I started off writing this Best Practices Guide for Sext Panther because I was doing really well on it. Then 2 pages turned into 10. And now, it’s a real resource.
Then, I decided to set up some classes. I’ve taught quite a few in-person workshops – “Monetizing Your Appeal Online” was taught in LA, Portland, SF, Vegas. This was the last one I did. http://eventbrite.com/e/88082586387 Now a, rendition of it is being taught online.
Tomorrow, I’ll be teaching my 5th online workshop – “Niteflirt Advanced – Make Money Online Through SW” – and more are in the works. All of my classes are now on my resource page, and I’m pretty happy with the way they’ve turned out.
Over here in the classy hoes line, hot hoe teaches other hot hoes on how to best hoe.
I hadn’t expected to give away over $2100 this month, but I did it. And it felt good. This started with trying to find a way to help struggling BDSM spaces. Sister businesses that hosted in-person providers, community BDSM events, and community classes like mine have closed down. Like so many venues, they are struggling to pay their rent.
When I wrote this guide, it was a way to put some best practices together for a platform that I was doing well on. I had hit #1 on the site a few times and thought it might be useful to others. I published “The Sextpanther Best Practices” document and then as word began to spread, I decided to donate the proceeds to SubRosa a BDSM education space in Oregon.
Then, because there seemed to be a real need for women wanting to enter the online SW industry, I put together a class called “So You Want To Make Money Online Through SW”. With a rent bill of almost $4k a month, and no way to throw events or open its doors, I knew Nightshade Sanctuary, a community space in San Francisco would have a hard time, too. So I decided to put all proceeds towards this class.
It turns out that there are quite a few people who listened. Other Sex Workers & subs, donated, too. And over two thousand dollars later, it’s been a great “Hoe For Hoes” month!
It is quiet. The streets are quiet. The park. The neighborhood in which I live lined with lovely homes. Even my favourite grocery store, which on any given day, is filled with a sort of bustle and buzz that makes me happy. The Corona Virus, AKA COVID19, and subsequent stay at home orders have been the reason for the worldwide shutdown. The economy is stumbling downhill and the US is just holding its uncomfortable breath hoping, waiting.
The shutdown has affected every person with a workplace to go to. And the new normal of face masks, bandannas, avoided eye contact, lack of the usual social gatherings have changed us forever.
There is a sector of the economy, though, that isn’t very much effected. The online sex work economy is the one in which I am involved. It is vast, it is varied, and it has been stable for me for the last 15 years. Stable might not be the right word. My income has increased every year since I began my work online. I am fortunate, during these strange times, my business is booming.
My daily routing of work has changed little. I am an online dominatrix and fetish content producer. I have worked from home, been my own boss, run my own business, paid my taxes, and produced my own fetish content for so long, this shelter-in-place routine has me busier than ever because of reasons one wouldn’t suspect. But nearby, sister businesses that hosted in-person providers, community BDSM events, and community classes like mine have closed down. Like so many venues, they are struggling to pay their rent.
Talking to some of my colleagues, I realized the kind of struggles that they are going through. Travel plans, including tours, have been canceled. They cannot see clients, they cannot rent out their space for workshops. And some of them have come to me asking for help.
When I was teaching workshops in person, the questions were always similar to the ones I receive now. Do you really make all of your money online? How do you manage so many platforms and so many profiles? How do you keep contact with your clients? Now, the questions have intensified because their own situations have intensified. Those who have worked online before are trying to manage, albeit under duress, because all of a sudden, online work is the only work they have.
What quarantines and lockdowns have shown us is that varied sources of income is necessary. By “us”, I mean sex workers. This umbrella term is truly vast. I am an online sex worker with a legal registered business. Many are in-person sex workers, or a mixture of the two.
I had this demand for teaching women how to work online when I started teaching workshops in person. When I saw 2 of my favourite BDSM spaces struggling, I couldn’t stand by and do nothing. So, I decided to do two things and hopefully hit both with a single stone. I decided to make these months in quarantine a time of education and support.
One of those ways is through the writing and online publication of a best practices guide for a particular platform called Sext Panther. It monetizes texting and online content like photos, videos and phone calls. I had reached #1 on the site several times, and started writing down what was working for me. 1 page turned into 10, and then I decided to self publish.
Another way to give support was to teach classes. My new class will be a webinar, so I’m making my experience work for me. An online class to teach about how to work online. There are so many skills involved in this work. Content production, marketing, the art of conversation, modeling, acting, human psychology, sexuality. The list goes on. But we all have to start somewhere, and as the old adage goes, I wish that someone had shown me all of this information when I started.
All of the proceeds from “The Sextpanther Best Practices” document that I wrote are going to SubRosa. All of the proceeds from my “So You Want To Make Money Online Through SW – level 1” online class are going to Nightshade Sanctuary. So, not only can people find new ways of making money online, these spaces will receive the funds.
